Ever had that moment where you’re on top of your guy, thighs burning, hair in your mouth, wondering, “Am I even doing this right or do I look like a malfunctioning rodeo queen?”<\/em> Don\u2019t worry, every woman\u2019s been there. Girl on top sex can either feel like your most powerful moment or a sweaty, confusing squat challenge. But learning how to ride a man and doing it right? It\u2019s pure magic, and we\u2019re about to show you exactly how.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Girl on top sex isn\u2019t just hot, it\u2019s empowering, freeing, and surprisingly great for your confidence and pleasure. If you\u2019ve ever wondered how to ride a man in a way that feels good for you and makes you look like a total goddess while doing it, you\u2019re in the right place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Research shows that women often feel more confident and sexually satisfied when they initiate or control the pace during sex, especially in the girl on top position.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n This position gives women more autonomy, physical control, and visual stimulation for their partner too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \ud83d\udcda Source: Tiggemann, 2015, Body image and sexual self-esteem in women<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n Girl on top sex is fantastic but it can burn the thigh muscles a little! If you want to enjoy the experience without worrying about walking strangely the next day, these tips should help you learn how to ride a man and love every second of it all – both of you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Many women end up in these awkward or straining positions because they please only the guy. But honestly, he gets pleasure just by seeing you on top of him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Focus on yourself first. Find a position for your legs which are the most comfortable. This allows you to ride him with more ease. Learning how to ride a man isn’t all about him, it’s about you too. [Read: How to pleasure yourself and guide your fingers to a powerful orgasm<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you ride him like you\u2019re in a horse race, of course, you get tired. But switch up the speed to help relieve your legs. So, start off slow, increase speed, then decrease it again once you feel yourself getting tired.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Go with a speed that you feel comfortable with. Of course, for both of you, it would be best if you mix it up a bit to give yourself and your partner different stimulation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Just because you\u2019re on top doesn\u2019t mean you have to be the one riding him. There are positions that require him to do the work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, lay on him while he moves his hips, or squat above him while he does the work. The point is, going on top doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s all about you doing the work. [Read: 15 sexy moves to get on top and rock his world<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n If hopping on top makes you feel shy or self-conscious, start small. Begin by riding him under a sheet or with the lights dimmed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Over time, as your comfort grows, you can ditch the covers and let your confidence shine. Psychologists call this graded exposure<\/em>, it\u2019s a method used to gradually overcome anxiety. Start slow and sexy, and you\u2019ll be strutting like a queen in no time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This position seems to give your legs a bit of a break, even though it\u2019s your standard cowgirl position. However, the only difference is you ride them with your chest facing their feet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n So, essentially, all they see is your back\u2014which they love by the way so don\u2019t worry. [Read: Reverse cowgirl sex position – What it is and how to ride him in sexy style<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n When grinding you use the most leg power, so instead of grinding, mix it up a bit by bouncing. Okay, don\u2019t bounce too hard, unless he likes it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You don\u2019t want to cause bruising but bouncing not only gives them a different sensation, but it\u2019s also a great visual for them while relieving your legs. [Read: 10 different sex positions to spice it up and add a bang in bed<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n While on top, you don\u2019t have to stay on top. Of course, if you\u2019re doing your thing and you\u2019re not tired then continue on. But if you feel like you need a break, you don\u2019t have to tell your partner that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead, casually move into another position. You can go on your side, go into doggy. Really go into any position which is comfortable for you, he\u2019ll follow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you’re focused on performance<\/em> instead of pleasure<\/em>, riding a man can start to feel like an awkward workout. Instead, bring your attention to how your body feels in the moment – your breath, the rhythm, the way your hips move. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is called sexual mindfulness, and it\u2019s been linked to higher levels of arousal and orgasm in women.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n \ud83d\udcda Source: Brotto et al., 2008, Mindfulness and sexual satisfaction in women<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n We know this sounds cliche, but really, working out is a great way to exercise your cardiovascular system and build endurance. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you focus on your legs, you’ll also build stronger leg muscles. If you have sex for an hour, naturally, you\u2019re going to be tired. But if you had sex for a minute and you\u2019re already out of breath, start working on getting fitter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This doesn\u2019t mean you need an ass like JLo. It just means you build up your stamina and endurance. Part of learning how to ride a man is about preparation too. [Read: Couple workouts – The best ways to get fitter and feel closer<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n That is, if you can. Stretching before any physical activity helps warm up your muscles and makes you limber. Yes, sex is a physical activity, don\u2019t kid yourself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The point is, you may be getting tired because your muscles aren\u2019t warmed up. So, if you’re able to, stretch your body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \ud83d\udc49 Want to get way better in bed and impress your man? Try these guides!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n This may sound like a buzzkill, but if you feel like you\u2019re about to have a heart attack, then tell him you need to switch the position. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sometimes, they\u2019re so into the act, they don\u2019t pay attention to your reaction. If this is the case, just nicely tell them you need to switch positions or just switch the position on your own. You can always go back to girl on top sex later on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sitting on your guy and pounding on him or grinding circles around his member isn\u2019t as simple as it sounds. It\u2019s really tiring. You\u2019re not lying down doing the missionary here. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019re jumping on and off all the time, and that involves a lot of your biggest muscles like the ones in your legs. [Read: How to make sex better – 20 mind tricks to enjoy it like never before<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Every now and then, rest your hands on the sides of your man or place them over his chest so you can take the pressure off your legs. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n You\u2019ll feel stronger and enjoy the girl on top position better. By knowing it’s going to be tiring, you’re not in for any nasty surprises.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In the movies, watching a girl riding her boyfriend looks sexy, especially when she flicks her hair from one side to another with her hands. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But it\u2019s not so easy in real life. When you\u2019re sweating in bed, your hair will stick to your face and annoy you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Untied hair can be distracting to your boyfriend too. Every time you bend towards him to kiss him, he\u2019ll have to deal with your big mane of hair that strikes his face and tickles him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Avoid all of that, just tie your hair and focus on the sex instead. Learning how to ride a man doesn’t always look like it does in the movies, we need to stay in reality here! [Read: 25 things guys find sexy and attractive about a girl<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n It may seem exciting to bounce off him really fast, but you\u2019ll get tired really fast. And most importantly, you\u2019ll ruin the sex. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n Girl on top sex doesn’t need to be super-energetic, so take your time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Think about it, great sex is all about the rhythm and the motion. Both of you have to feel in sync with each other to actually enjoy sex. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you move too aggressively, your man who\u2019s lying down would never be able to keep up with you and he\u2019ll end up feeling left out of the game because he won\u2019t feel involved. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Really, your man\u2019s member is really, really sensitive. It doesn\u2019t have a bone even if he has a boner. When you\u2019re on top of him, a lot of your weight rests around his member. Move around in new motions or adjust your position now and then. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But don\u2019t sit on him hard or move in quick, opposite directions all of a sudden, without any warning. You may end up fracturing him down there if you don\u2019t take it easy! [Read: 9 sex positions that could leave you with a broken penis<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n As you ride a man, you need to always remember that the person on top has the important task of gauging the sex and working towards making it better. They control the way the sex goes and how it ends. <\/p>\n\n\n\n So when you\u2019re riding the guy and using the girl on top position, you can have fun controlling your man. But at the same time, you need to read his signs so both of you can orgasm together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If he seems to be distracted or in pain, slow down and see if it\u2019s something you\u2019re doing. Perhaps, you\u2019re moving too aggressively and giving him a burn on his inner thighs. Or if he suddenly grabs you, stop moving your pelvis for a second to find out if he\u2019s unable to hold on anymore. <\/p>\n\n\n\n And most importantly, if his member starts throbbing inside you when you\u2019re on top, he\u2019s probably having a hard time holding himself back from blowing out, so slow down and help him get back his control or build yourself up to orgasm together. [Read: The 9 big issues on a man’s mind when having sex<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n You can move vertically up and down when you\u2019re on top. You can go fast and quick or slow and deeper, or you can move around his member in slow circles. Indulge in any motions as long as it feels good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But don\u2019t jump between motions too quickly. Give enough time for your partner to relate to your moves and he can move in the opposite direction and connect better with you, which will ensure that the sex is better. <\/p>\n\n\n\n All guys love watching a girl play with her breasts when you ride him. As you bounce off him, cup your breasts with your hands and move them against the sides of your body. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Additionally, you can take his hands and place them on your breasts as you grind around him. It’ll drive him crazy and you’ll enjoy it too! [Read: Why do guy like feeling breasts? The reason why guys love boobs<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n As you ride a man, stop now and then and slide downwards to his knees. And bend down and lick his member. It\u2019ll turn your guy on a lot just watching you lick him up when he\u2019s so wet around his member.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You can also take his member out while having sex and move your hip closer towards his face so he can give you some action too. This is a great way to save your legs and get some extra action! You can also turn around and do a 69 so you can blow him while he eats you. Oh, all the wonderful options!<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re on top, you know you\u2019re in control. But don\u2019t just think it, do something about it. Treat him like you\u2019re in control of him, order him to do something, or yell at him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019ll make you feel more powerful and sexy. And your man will feel more aroused getting dominated by you at the same time. [Read: How to dominate a man in bed<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t just bounce up and down the whole way. You\u2019ll tire yourself off or the constant thwacking will end up boring both of you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Get close to him and gasp something sexy in his ears. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n Whisper something dirty that\u2019ll turn both of you on more. And in the heat of the moment, let your imagination run wild and dirty. [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and arouse him with the sexiest words<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n When you\u2019re having wild, passionate sex, it\u2019s obvious that you\u2019ll feel hornier too. Use your nails against his chest and watch him moan in painful delight. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Bite him and leave a few traces of love bites around his body or just cover his eyes with a blindfold and let him grope around your body as you get rough with him from on top. [Read: How to have rough sex and 15 dirty moves to have the sexiest time ever<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Women report feeling more sexually empowered when they initiate sex and take physical control, especially in the girl-on-top position. It reinforces autonomy, self-image, and assertiveness in the bedroom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \ud83d\udcda Source: Fahs, B. (2013), Women’s fake orgasms and best orgasm experiences<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n So if you ever feel awkward about taking the lead, remember: you\u2019re not just riding him, you\u2019re rewriting the rules.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Getting on top is all about losing your inhibition and feeling more confident about yourself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n As you grind your pelvis against his, lean back and stretch your body.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n You\u2019ll be able to reveal all, and you\u2019d look a lot sexier too. And your man will definitely have a hard time keeping his hands off your body as you show yourself off. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Staying on top and moving aggressively against him for more than a few minutes can leave you exhausted. To avoid feeling weak with fatigue and ruining the mood, give your man some control now and then.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Grab both his hands and place them against your waist as you move up and down on him. And press his hands firmly against your body so he gets the hint to lift you up and down along with your own momentum. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019ll help ease your sex workout and make him feel involved too. And by doing that, both of you can actually last longer and enjoy the girl on top position for much longer. [Read: The surprising benefits of cuddling and how it makes your life better<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re concerned about how you look while riding him, don\u2019t. Every guy loves seeing a woman on top of him. Plus, we all have tummies, so what\u2019s the big deal? <\/p>\n\n\n\n But if you look down at yourself instead of him, you change the position, making it more uncomfortable for you. Instead, look at him while riding him as it straightens your spine and aligns your hips. [Read: Eye contact during sex will take your orgasm to the next level<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Now, we’re starting to sound like your mother, right? Well, she has a point. It\u2019s important to have a healthy and balanced diet. If you eat fast food, then you won\u2019t have the proper nutrition to sustain yourself while having sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019ll be surprised at how much food influences your sex life. So, if you haven\u2019t seen a veggie in a couple of months, start chewing on a carrot. When learning how to ride a man, make sure you focus on strength too because that will make you feel confident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \ud83d\udc49 Check these features out to master sex and drive your man wild!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n This is pretty simple. When you’re on top of him and letting him penetrate you, just sit in a manner that feels good. It’ll come naturally, and you don’t really have to memorize any names for it. After all, there’s a new sex position with a fancy name getting added to the list every single day!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Here are three easy positions you can use while riding a man for some girl on top sex fun. [Read: 13 spicy sex positions to heat up your bedroom romps<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Make him lie down on his back. Sit on top of him and place your hands on his chest or on his knees. This way you’re facing him while sitting down. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You’d look really sexy and your man will love the view he’s getting. You can either keep your knees down on the bed and move that way, or you can lift up onto your feet *frog style* and bounce your bum. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In this position, you sit down on your man who’s lying down but face away from him so your butt faces him while you look towards his feet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If your guy’s a butt guy who loves a sexy butt more than an eyeful of boobs, then he’d love this position. [Read: 34 sexual things that turn a guy on and arouse him when he sees a girl<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n The only negative with this position is that both of you can’t really kiss or do much with each other’s faces because you’re both not facing each other. But, this is one of the most visually stimulating girl on top sex positions around. [Read: Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position: What It Is & How to Ride in Sexy Style<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n You can start off by sitting down on your man with your feet on either side of your man’s chest. But after he penetrates you, bend both his knees up so you can lean your back against his thighs. And get your boyfriend to sit up so it feels like both of you are actually sitting down and cuddling each other, while penetrating at the same time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you feel uncomfortable about showing off too much of your body while sitting on him, the cuddle can be a great sex position. It’ll cover your body up so you don’t have to feel uncomfortable, and at the same time, it’ll make the whole position feel more intimate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n [Read: Sex sounds – How to moan and look and sound sexy AF while making out<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Riding a man is easy. All you need to do is get on top of him, and go with the motions. At least, that’s what it looks like. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But, for a first-timer or someone who hasn’t really been riding a man often enough, there are many things you need to know to make a ride feel sexy and look even sexier.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Riding a man can be messy at times. If you’re feeling all sweaty while riding a man for the first time, that’s the least of your problems really. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The reality is that your hair will be flying all over the place and sticking all over you, you’ll get cramps in your knees, your thighs will hurt, and you’ll feel more tired than an intense workout.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n But, riding a man doesn’t always have to be this bad. If you know the right way to ride a man, you can actually make him hornier than ever, and look so sexy he’d want to cum right away! [Read: 22 honest secrets to look way better naked<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n For sure, a few tips on how to ride a man will serve you well and cut out the aches and sweat, but it’s good to know why you should learn all of this in the first place. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Without getting into positions and tips just yet, here are a couple of good things about riding a man in bed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When both lovers take turns to be on top, it keeps the relationship exciting and fresh. It gives both of you equal control in bed while having sex and no partner feels dominated. Trying something new also stops you from falling into sex boredom ruts. [Read: How to spice up your sex life in 30 sexy ways<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Your man will actually think you’re a sexy, wild thing when you push him down and get on top of him. You’ll appear more confident, more powerful, and wilder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n And for a guy who’s used to being on top, he’ll be happy to just sit back and watch you take control while getting naughty. [Read: 12 foreplay moves for men that get a guy mad honey and drip precum<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n The confidence you\u2019ll gain from trying something new and seeing the reaction from your guy will make you feel like a goddess. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It will help you to feel more body confidence and, of course, more sex confident too. None of these are bad things!<\/p>\n\n\n\n You should know that riding a man is a very dominant and confident position. While this may come easy for many girls, most girls still find the thought of shedding their inhibitions while watching their breasts gallop in midair over a man intimidating. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Girl on top sex is super-empowering, but there are some things you need to know first. <\/p>\n\n\n\n For a few girls, they need to be in a relationship long enough to actually get on top and feel secure about it. [Read: How to make out with a guy like a sex goddess<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you want to know how to ride a man, make sure you’re not the only one doing all the riding. The one on top is always the one who controls the sex and orgasms. So switch places a couple of times so both of you can feel in control of the sexual escapade.<\/p>\n\n\n\n On one hand, getting on top takes the control away from your man, but your sexual confidence will end up turning him on a lot more. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Push him onto the bed, let him know just how horny you are, and sit on top of him.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n He’ll understand that you want to take the lead, and he’ll definitely be excited to see that he’s turning you on so much that you want to control the sexual act. [Read: 28 desirable ways to make your boyfriend want you more than ever!<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n And as long as both of you share equal time on top, he’d even enjoy just lying down and watching the sexy show while you sway and grind circles over his member.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Now that you\u2019ve got the moves, the mindset, and the muscle memory, there\u2019s nothing stopping you from turning the girl-on-top position into your personal power pose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This isn\u2019t just about \u201chow to ride a man\u201d like a pro, it\u2019s about owning your pleasure, celebrating your confidence, and deepening the connection with your partner while you\u2019re at it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Researchers have found that shared pleasure and a sense of autonomy during sex, especially in positions like girl on top, can boost sexual satisfaction and emotional intimacy in relationships.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n\n
How to ride a man – Tips to make the girl on top position easier and more enjoyable<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
1. Focus on pleasuring yourself first <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
2. Switch the speed up <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
3. Let him do some of the work too <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
4. Build Confidence in Layers<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
5. Try reverse cowgirl<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
6. Mix things up by bouncing<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
7. Switch positions<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
8. Use Mindful Movement to Enjoy the Moment<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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9. Workout to build leg strength<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
10. Stretch before sex<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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11. Tell him you’re feeling tired <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
12. Make peace with the tiredness<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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13. Tie your hair up <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
14. Don’t go too fast <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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15. Remember that his penis isn’t that strong <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
16. Read his signs and reactions <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
17. Switch up your movements<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
18. Involve your breasts <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
19. Add in some oral <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
20. Enjoy the feeling of dominating him <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
21. Throw in some dirty talk <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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22. Get a little rough <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
23. Embrace Your Power, Literally<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
24. Show yourself off<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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25. Let him hold you<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
26. Keep your eyes on him<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
27. Fuel up before sex<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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The best positions for girl on top sex<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
1. Facing each other <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
2. Facing away from him *reverse cowgirl*<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
3. Cuddling up <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Girl on top sex is easy, but not always glamorous <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Why girl on top sex is so great <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
1. It keeps your sex life exciting<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
2. Your guy will appreciate it <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
3. You’ll feel super-confident and sexy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Remember to switch things up and share the workload<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Ride It Like You Own It<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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